It is hard to believe that a year has passed since we lost our beloved and very much admired colleague Bernie Mills. The anniversary of her passing, on the 1 Oct, was remembered sincerely by her colleagues through Masses and personal reflection Those who worked closely with Bernie absolutely respected her and were touched by her real passion and concern for the work of CAFOD. Her passing was a complete shock, given that she had no previous signs of any ill-health or concerns, and was on the evening before she was to attend a Harvest Fast Day lunch in Bridgend.
As many of us who have lost someone so close to them, it is hard to describe the space and emptiness that their leaving has left behind. It is not so much that you miss your interactions with them, but it awakens within you the realisation that we are all made up of the people we meet, know and love. We are not isolated individuals who interact with each other, rather we are each other. We are the passion, the smiles, the laughter, the caring, the frustrations, the happiness, the griefs and anxieties of all those around us. This is what it means to be human – no-one is an island.
This is why loss and passing is so difficult and the process of grieving takes so long, because you have to let go of part of your-self which was made up of that person. That is why so many say that you always ‘carry your loved ones with you’ no matter what. This is why it is so important to let the legacy of that person live, live in you and through you. And this is how we remember Bernie – in her love, care, friendliness and passion for a better and more just world. And this legacy that she leaves behind is a living legacy that brings hope to millions across the globe.
Join us in supporting her legacy, either by supporting her candlelight fund, or by supporting the work that she so cared about. And please do keep her and her family in your prayers, especially at the time of her anniversary.
Bernie Mills, RIP
1960 – 2015
Eternal rest grant unto them, O Lord,
and let perpetual light shine upon them.
May they rest in peace.